- We work on an area of your choice
- We discuss the work and build out weekly goals
- This is all about you, I’m here to guide you as you decide on what you want to accomplish and how
- coaching is not therapy or counseling
- We check in every week about how much you have accomplished
- This is about you, which also means its about you putting in the work
The client is responsible for the results they are generating: Having responsibility is the duty or obligation to act. Taking responsibility is acknowledging and accepting the choices you have made, the actions you have taken, and the results they have led to. True autonomy leads to both having responsibility and taking responsibility. Taking responsibly is fulfilling your role in life. Responsibility is an essential element of integrity; it is the congruence of what you think, what you say, and what you do. Responsibility is essential for reciprocity, trust, and for maintaining symmetric relationships. The client is capable of much better results than they are currently generating: Responsibility unleashes choice. Whenever we think, decide, choose, and act we are exercising our personal responsibility. Deciding to accept responsibility for our choices increases the range of choices considered acceptable by others. It allows autonomy to increase without decreasing relatedness. We always have more responsible and less responsible options to choose from, however, the coach always lives by the principle that all clients are capable of much better results than they are currently generating. Focus on what the client thinks and experiences: Sharpening your client-centered focus requires both an emotional commitment and consistent practical effort. The principal focus has to remain on the client’s thoughts and objectives, as those are the reason the conversation is taking place. If when coaching you hear yourself taking over the conversation, introducing your own beliefs and views or giving advice, begin immediately to shift your emphasis back to the client and focus on them. Clients can generate their own perfect solutions: In practical terms, solutions or ideas voiced by the person being coached are often more reasonable and pragmatic for them, and more likely to be formed into action. They will feel greater ownership of the idea and link that to a sense of responsibility for its success. A coach should resist the temptation to always have the answers. A good coach must operate from the perspective that the best quality solutions come from the client, not from the coach. The coaching conversation is based on equality: The coaching relationship is based upon the equality of both the coach and the client. It is an empowering and respectful relationship that enables the client to move forward, create plans and put ideas into action. An unbalanced approach can also undermine the client’s confidence as they begin to feel subordinate in the relationship. They may dislike the inference that the coach is somehow superior in matters relating to their own situation. Even where people are actually quite comfortable with a subordinate role, this approach can diminish their ability to own their own problems, or seek their own solutions. By acting from a sense of equality and collaboration we promote an environment where the truth can be told, mistakes made and insights discovered.