3 Reasons Why You Aren’t Open to Receiving
The holiday season is coming to an end. Everyone has exchanged presents and you are exhausted from hosting, cleaning or traveling. This holiday week was supposed to be a time of rejuvenation, and yet you feel even more drained than when the holiday week started.
The holidays are difficult times to find time for yourself because of the many demands placed on you.
You gave of your time, expertise, energy, and goodwill.
You were present for your children, parents, and partners.
You were constantly giving.
Unfortunately, for many women this act of giving is something that happens every day. Somewhere along the line, you learned t that to be considered a “real” mother, friend, wife, child and person we must continually be giving of ourselves.
Were you ever taught how to be open to receiving?
Were you ever told that to give of yourself you must have a solid practice of self-care and self-love?
Were you ever taught that everyone, especially those who give so much to others, must find a way to replenish their reserves to be a giver?
Learning to receive is a skill that can be learned, but you have to be open to learning it. When you open yourself up to receiving you gift others the opportunity to give to you, to replenish your reserves.
Here three reasons why you aren’t open to receiving and how to remove these blocks:
1. You believe you don't deserve it. - Somewhere, somehow you have come to believe that you don’t deserve to receive. This is a false belief. You have the right to receive everything the universe has to give. It is your time to decide and set the intention that you are enough. Repeat this mantra: “I am deserving of receiving all the good that the universe has for me.”
2. You are afraid of being vulnerable. - You believe that by receiving from others, you are in debt to them. This isn’t the case at all. By being open to receiving you are allowing others the opportunity to give back. You are sharing an opportunity. Repeat this mantra “My ability to receive is a gift to others.”
3. You don’t value the gifts you are receiving. - Have you had that moment when someone has given you something, and it wasn’t exactly what you wanted? Well, when you are open to receiving, you are open to the possibilities of what is gifted to you. If you remain open to staying in the present, you see the actual value in what you receive which paves the way for you to receive even more. Repeat this mantra “I am honored by all that I receive.”
You are only given so many days on this earth, enjoy the act of receiving as well as giving.
Think about everything you are missing out when you don’t allow yourself to receive:
You miss out on compliments for the kind things you do.
You miss out on compliments just for being the woman you are.
You miss out on opportunities available to you.
You miss out on the kindness of others.
You miss out on treating yourself.
You miss out on being present in any given moment.
You miss out on letting go and not controlling everything.
You miss out on an abundant life.
- You miss out on building your energies so that you may continue to give to others.
One of the best pieces of advice I've received is of service to others. Often, what we are facing isn't as troubling as what others face. By helping others through their crisis, you forget your challenges. It is a beautiful practice and one I believe in wholeheartedly. In addition to that, however, I believe that when you let go of your reservations and welcome others to give to you, you are more open to the possibilities this life can offer you.
I would love to learn how you plan to remove your barriers to receiving and how you will open up to the idea of receiving. Please share your thoughts with me in the comments.
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