8 Ways to use Fear to your Advantage

Use Fear To Your Advantage

Fear can be b*tch! Being afraid is what's held me back from writing a blog post since October!

I can't even believe it has been that long!

The great thing about this time off is that I have had a chance to do some much-needed self-discovery. I've spent a ton of time journaling and reflecting. I connected with my feelings and am much more grounded to what my body and soul want to feel. (I'll share some of the resources I used at the end of this post)

What does this mean for you?

I am back and ready to be there for all of you! Realizing that fear was the biggest reason holding me back, I thought I should with you some tips on how to turn the tables on this. Use it to your advantage rather than allowing it to hold you back. If you aren't afraid, you aren't human. Everyone is afraid of something, and it tends to evolve and change over time.


So, how do you turn the tables and use fear to your advantage?:

1. Determine why you’re afraid. Spend time connecting to that fear and where it comes from.

  • If it’s just your ego talking, you know that it isn’t in your best interest. Remember being afraid doesn't help your current situation.

2. Reframe the situation. The fact that you’re physically uncomfortable doesn’t have to control your thoughts or actions. When you’re feeling anxious, take that as a sign that something great might be getting ready to happen. Step outside your comfort zone and take advantage of the opportunity.

  • Use it to your advantage. It’s a good thing, not something to be avoided. Embrace it.


3. Make a list of all of your fears. You’ll notice a pattern. You might afraid of embarrassment, success, or becoming isolated. By understanding the core of what is bothering you, you can better deal with them.

  • By addressing the core issue, you may be able to eliminate many of things you are afraid of.

4. Use fear to propel you forward. The most successful people have been those that faced being afraid head on. Conquering one area makes it easier to do it again in the future.

  • The confidence you gain can be applied to all areas of your life.

5. Use fear as an opportunity to practice relaxation techniques. You might hate dinner parties, but they’re a great chance to work on your conversational skills. When you’re feeling scared, you have the chance to practice relaxing. Focusing on breathing slowly and think positive thoughts.

6. Recognize that fear is self-induced. It’s only your perception of the event that creates your scared feelings. And it is just a feeling. It may include physical symptoms, but it’s a feeling nevertheless.

  • If your life isn’t in danger, your feelings are just a guess. When you can realize this fact, you’ll also realize that all of your other feelings follow the same rules.

7. Use fear to enhance your discipline. Often times, these feelings occur when your brain tries to stop you from doing something because it is protecting you. It makes you uncomfortable until you run away from the source of these feelings. Use the opportunity to exercise your ability to push through the anxiety.

  • Discipline is the ability to do things you don’t feel like doing. You don’t need discipline to do the things you enjoy. Does it take discipline to eat a potato chip? No. It takes discipline to stop. You need discipline to face your the cause of your anxiousness.

Here are some of the resources I used to get a better handle on my feelings:

  1. The Desire Map by Danielle Laporte
  2. Working with Ruby Freemon in a coaching group

Using both of these resources, along with journaling and EFT tapping I've learned to connect with my fears to do the work I am called to do!



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